I want to offer, in kind. I feel as if I have feasted at the banquet table too long and am ready to offer my seat and prepare a plate for others. In some ways I feel just prepared enough to offer the true Father back to the sons of God… to remind them of something they have always known, but not fully understood. That is all that any of us really need.
Having a campfire conversation is driven more by a posture of the heart than actual flames. I refuse to do life on my own and I am not interested in having anything other than campfire conversations. I am pursuing others that desire authentic discourse about things that really matter and are interested in real change.
I spent a lot of years trying to sanctify the life I had lived, the decisions I had made, and possibly even my family of origin. The Baptist church I was baptized in at 19 said some really cool things about me coming “Just as I am” and the new bible I was reading said some pretty amazing stuff about forgiveness; past, present, and future. I think I intellectually accepted all of that, but I am not sure that I really believed it at the deepest level. Not in the core of my being… at the level of the heart.
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Who Is This Not For?
When we spend time thinking about growing our businesses we tend to focus on our ideal customers—the people we know we want to matter to. A great way to get really specific about who you are creating your products and services for is to think about who they are not for.
As co-heirs, sons of God, who were uniquely created and wonderfully made to bear one aspect of the Father’s profound glory different than all other members of His creation, we countered a lie: more of Him in less of me. The right equation is something far different than we have been taught to believe. In terms of the new heart given to us and our new identity as the redeemed, what we really need is... more of Him in more of me.
Despite all that our Western culture encourages, we were not meant to walk alone. Having circles of deep fellowshp with other men has changed everything. My wife, children, and virtually everyone I encounter knows me as a different man. I’ve banded together with several aggregations of good and like-minded kings who want to change the world. They are freedom fighters who will settle for nothing less than advancing the Kingdom by awakening the hearts of other good kings and encouraging them to live the life they were intended to live.
Steve’s book, “Anchor Man: How a Father Can Anchor His Family in Christ for the Next 100 Years,” was a rescue from my greatest fears. Despite the fact that my wife and I had departed from the culture of divorce of both of our families, it often felt like a thin veil of consolation. The whisper of our enemy was that a new belief system and a strident commitment to marriage was nothing more than wishful thinking with inevitable failure just around the corner.
It should’t surprise me at this point, but when they discussed the challenging season of their time in the west and the heroic journey they took to arrive here, the primary role player of the enemy didn’t enter my mind. When I recanted the paralysis we were feeling in all that was set in front of us, I didn’t acknowledge him either. I listed all the catalysts, reasons, and excuses for the lack of motivation and focus, but I didn’t note the one who is most powerfully marshalling his forces against us in order to keep us from our appointed Kingdom assignments.
What we are really after is the same destination that Christianity ultimately aims for… transformation. What we want is healing, restoration, and living into the new heart that has been set within each one of us in salvation. We want to address the underlying condition driving what is on the surface. It is the irreversible change that only true transformation can bring. (It is ironic that the sword of legalism I used to wield actually produces the opposite of its intent. By forcing the reality of things into hiding, shrouded with modified behavior, the heart’s true condition is left untouched and unaffected.)
One of the unfortunate consequences we are finding in either faith-based or high-integrity leadership situations, is the rise of the bully. While operating in a "mean-spirited" environment might be more obviously unhealthy, "artificial harmony" is equally so. In those environments, the difficult conversations never seem to happen. There is little resolution to problems. Employees and divisions get silo'd, everyone operates in a vacuum, unhealthy offline conversations prevail, the company spirals without clear leadership and addressing of important issues, and... bullies emerge.
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Last week I had knee surgery. It’s still swollen like a softball even when I keep it propped up over my head. It’s hard to work in this position. I’ve gotten some things done, but looking at my work load, I’m wrestling with the question: How much is enough?
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When it comes to business we spend a lot of our time working on the tactics.
We agonise for weeks over perfect taglines, choosing logo designs and installing fixtures, often without fully understanding if and how those tactics (the things we spend most of our time doing), are helping us to get where we want to go.
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Every day at the bottom of my personal planner, I write this phrase: “I exist to help people and institutions discover, live and communicate a better story to the world.” Simply writing this sentence everyday keeps me on track.
DIY in this circumstance (and maybe in every other) was a complete lie. We couldn’t have done it on our own. We were not created for life apart from others. We have a culture and an enemy that is pervasively and aggressively driving us to isolation.. It is not the intention of our Father or the recipe for His grandest glorification.
We have been assured of our happy ending. We don’t need to be worried or afraid. But, we must live in the double-visioned tension of both present and future. We need to know, as we slog through the slums, that there is glory, beauty, and restoration coming. That one great hope may be necessary for us to triumphantly and heroically continue the journey.
At the end of the day, it is the great privilege of operating at His discretion within an unfathomable personal relationship with Him, that all of this is possible. It is not merely some coaching and all the incredibly hard work of a great team, but the guidance of His hand. We get to approach the throne of the Creator of the universe and seek his counsel, direction, and blessing.
As He has invited us into being co-heirs of His Kingdom work, He enlists us in important and essential ways. The reality is that He is the great magician; both Creator and Healer of all things. But we are His hands and feet… we have a crucial role to play. In this case, He is writing such an unbelievable story and inviting my friend into playing such an essential role, that I am awaking each day awaiting the next set of surprises as well. You see, when one submits to the adventure of God’s larger story in their life, it beautifully permissions the rest of us to do the same.
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The Purpose Of A Billboard
Powerful marketing is both smart and generous, we know it when we experience it, because it changes how we feel and gives us a story to tell. Weak marketing is obvious and selfish, we know that when we see or hear it, because it screams ‘LOOK AT ME!’ and leaves us cold.
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Every time I read the book of Acts, I’m a little envious. But just a little. All the snake bites and temporary jail time doesn’t appeal to me, but there’s one thing that does: community. And I’m not talking about a short Bible study of age-related peers.
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So whether you’re an author trying to sell a book, a business owner wanting to get customers in the door, or even a pastor desiring to lead people into an authentic experience of faith, know this: If you talk too much about how awesome you are, and too little about how awesome your reader, viewer or even customer is, you’ll lose people—their votes, their purchases and their attention.
I remember feeling like my wife and others were the cause of all my problems and that if they would just get “fixed” everything would be okay. Somewhere in a rising tide of a failing marriage buckling under the weight of my disappointment, I allowed myself to take some ownership of at least a portion of the issue. Maybe I was some small percentage of the problem. My false humility handled the rest. I WOULD TAKE 100% OWNERSHIP OF MY 1% OF THE PROBLEM. The arrogance of that statement makes me embarrassed even as I write it, but it was a crucial step.
For there is an invigorating momentum that comes from understanding we have a crucial role to play. There is fuel for the journey in seeing that we actually contribute and play an important and particular part in the larger story of God. It is not about taking credit, but honestly owning all the privilege, responsibility, and nobility of our appointed roles in the Kingdom. We matter. What we need are more Kings not making themselves the point of the story, but using their prominent place in the story to carry out the incredible work He has given us to do in the larger story.
I was becoming a new man with a new identity. I was putting the old man behind me and putting on the new one. As the bishop tells Jean Valjean in Les Miserables, “You no longer belong to fear and hatred.” God knew me in some precious and unique way that would redefine my life. I would bear His image uniquely and most profoundly reflect His glory through that identity.
Like it or not, we live in a “bigger is better” culture. By way of example, there is an increasing portion of our population that is determining value by how many “friends” they have tallied or “likes” they have received in social media channels. It is a numbers game where worth and notoriety are almost purely defined in numbers.