Wise Counsel

Father

Father

The reality is that the first thing we understood about our true Father, came from how we knew our earthly one.  If God is the same “yesterday, today, and forever,” then the fact we all seem to know Him differently must point to the unique experience we have had with Him and our particular perspective of Him.

Turns out that the way we “learned” the Father not only affects the way we view Him and our relationship with Him, but also the posture we carry in our approach to life.  The “orphan spirit” we find in many senior leaders is closely aligned with the entrepreneurial spirit required for launching into life and uncertainty on their own.  One is the shadow effect of the other.

Incomplete

Incomplete

It was always intended this way, from the very beginning.  His plan is that His love would make all of us complete through His love.  That obviously implies that we were incomplete.

As a leader who resides in the United States at this point in history, how does that word “incomplete” hit you?  There is something in me that recoils at the thought.  An author I love says that we are all “unfinished” men and women.  I feel a little better about that word, but nonetheless, both imply that there is something lacking.  How dare they?

Tolerance

Tolerance

We live in a world where it is increasingly unpopular to have an opinion (or maybe just an opinion contrary to the prevailing enlightened opinion of the day).  Tolerance seems to be more contemporaneously linked to having no opinion than carrying any conviction about almost anything.

When I look at the life of Jesus, however, He seems to be wholly intolerant of many things, but unconventionally open to treating those who didn’t believe the way He did with dignity and grace.

Sonship

Sonship

What I didn’t realize was that my recovering legalism was far fresher than I knew.  Like an image in a rearview mirror that is closer than it appears.  But, a strange thing happened in the weeks before this scheduled feast that changed everything.  Our younger son, Gray, was involved in an accident and for a short period of time, we thought we might lose him.  The journey to his healing taught me a crucial lesson:

My children belonged to a different Father.

I was merely the privileged caregiver for whatever season it took me to hand them over to their true Father.  I had learned that God might be a replacement for a bad father.  What I now new was that God was the intended Father for every man, whether he had a bad father or good one.

Become

Become

When I look at the life of Jesus, for instance, He seemed to only do and say what the Father told him.  In fact, He routinely walked past the opportunity to do good, because He seemed to be called to other places and things.  Often that thing was simply spending more time alone with the Father.

As a Christian, it is hard to look past the opportunity to do good.  As a Type-A person who has spent a lot of time trying to do good things for God, I’ve had to come to the sobering reality that God would rather have me do a few things with Him than do a lot of good things apart from Him.

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Strategy

Strategy

It is the beginning of a new year and every intentional leader I talk to is hoping that 2016 will be different than 2015. They’re seeing the new year as a grand opportunity to chart a course toward a different future.  Believing that maybe this is the year where a sense of team emerges, their biggest challenges and frustrations get addressed, and they have a huge celebration at the end of the year to celebrate all they’ve accomplished.

Linger

Linger

The antidote for all of this is to live every day throughout the year as fully in the Kingdom as possible.  To build into our weekly schedule; rest, friends, fellowship, and celebration.  To live enough of a Kingdom life that Christmas isn’t so inconsistent with the rest of our year.  Where the Christmas season is simply more about having other’s join us in a broader circle, for what we are enjoying all the time.

Redemption

Redemption

I led a business offsite a week ago.  It was for a very interesting two person partnership.  One is in his sixties.  He is creative, passionate, and has built an incredible reputation for craftsmanship over the decades.  He is in that later stage of his career where he is wanting to establish some things, position himself, and better offer back to the generations behind him.  He wants his work to matter and impact the lives of as many people as possible.

Testament

Testament

His account.  His testament of how the Father has shown up, provided, and spoken affirmation and specific direction for him, is holy.  It contains the truest things about him and the life the Father intends for him to live.  It is part of his holy canon.  It is his “good news account” and contains “doctrine, counsel, instruction” divinely spoken particularly for him to rest in and humbly testify to others.

Stories

Stories

Turns out that our brains are wired to seek simplicity out of all the complexity around us.  We are constantly sifting through the information, sights, sounds and confusion around us, trying to process everything in order to make sense of things.  Our brains don’t like to work too hard to figure things out.  When there isn’t clarity or we can’t distill what we are experiencing down to manageable ideas or understandings, we move on.

Restore

Restore

My father died far too young, his body beaten down by stress, worry, and exhaustion.  Somewhere in my subconscious, I always wished that he had not been so alone in his work.  That he had worked with partners or a leadership team, had clear vision, a solid plan, and had imagined a bigger and better future.  He deserved better than he got.  Owning his own company took decades off his life.  Just like every other small business owner I have encountered, he started his own business for freedom, margin, and the opportunity to have more control of his life.  And almost like every other small business owner I know, the business dictated his life and owned him.  He was looking for freedom and found the opposite.

Behavior

Behavior

I spent a lot of years trying to sanctify the life I had lived, the decisions I had made, and possibly even my family of origin.  The Baptist church I was baptized in at 19 said some really cool things about me coming “Just as I am” and the new bible I was reading said some pretty amazing stuff about forgiveness; past, present, and future.  I think I intellectually accepted all of that, but I am not sure that I really believed it at the deepest level.  Not in the core of my being… at the level of the heart.

More

More

As co-heirs, sons of God, who were uniquely created and wonderfully made to  bear one aspect of the Father’s profound glory different than all other members of His creation, we countered a lie: more of Him in less of me.  The right equation is something far different than we have been taught to believe.  In terms of the new heart given to us and our new identity as the redeemed, what we really need is... more of Him in more of me.

Treaties

Treaties

Despite all that our Western culture encourages, we were not meant to walk alone.  Having circles of deep fellowshp with other men has changed everything.  My wife, children, and virtually everyone I encounter knows me as a different man.  I’ve banded together with several aggregations of good and like-minded kings who want to change the world.  They are freedom fighters who will settle for nothing less than advancing the Kingdom by awakening the hearts of other good kings and encouraging them to live the life they were intended to live.